Thursday 9th June 6pm
Sunday 12th June 10am
Sunday 19th June 10am
When you’re expecting a baby, there’s a lot of advice to sift through. Whether it’s parenting manuals or Auntie Jean’s miracle cure for morning sickness; it can feel a little overwhelming. Our Parents to Be event is designed to simplify things for expectant parents; offering friendly, unbiased advice to help you figure it out.
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· Nutrition during pregnancy and beyond* · Pushchair choices
· Advice from The Daisy Foundation Team · Exclusive discounts · Drinks & nibbles · Free goody bag
· Meet and chat with other new parents · Expert advice and safety tips
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Hamish smiled back at me, his mummy, my heart melted and tears rolled down my cheeks..
Good morning mummy as Hamish smiles at me with gorgeous blue eyes,
my heart melts every morning..
I love afternoon feeds, son and I sitting on the couch in the quiet of our home, magical..
My name is Laura and I am a first time mummy and these are just but a few of the lovely experiences I share with my son day to day. There is no hiding that yes in the beginning I found bonding with my son difficult and convinced myself I was not cut out for the job, yes the ‘job’!.
I remember being at Daisy baby Tinies with Hamish and was upset, however being with mummies who understood and are like minded can make a huge difference. What I found truly inspiring was that when I started to talk the majority of the mummies had their own story to tell, it was amazing. The mummies I have met through the Daisy Foundation helped me through a hard and difficult time. The most amazing part was not explaining, sharing and having understanding is great. I remember my friend turned to me and gave me the biggest and best cuddle ever. I soon began to realise that I am not alone, there are so many mummies out there feeling as though they are isolated, you are not alone. At times just being in company alone was good and the girls always encouraged me to go along to the classes and stay and have coffee afterwards.
The support from my Daisy girlfriends was, and continues to be, amazing, although I knew in my heart I needed more help and support. My friend had told me about a local support network for PND in North Lanarkshire and I started to go along once or twice weekly, again having company helped me a lot. Weeks passed and I learned of Bluebell PND Services. I had heard great reviews about the organisation. Bluebell is a truly amazing organisation who have helped me to get back on my feet through professional counselling.
Hamish is now 7 months old and how my journey has changed. I believe in myself and know that I am a good enough mummy and Hamish is a happy, content and loved boy. Yes there are still challenges, but for me it is not a challenge but a chance to learn. I know now that Hamish and I will be learning together for a long time and teaching each other.
So there I was at 34+2 packing my hospital bag and my waters went, a hot summers day, no contractions, what do you do........?
My first baby I hadn't a clue what would be useful, what did I need?
So we grabbed my notes and headed to Wishaw general. We ended up in there for 7 days.
The first thing I will always tell mums is IF you think your waters have gone, STICK A MATERNITY PAD ON. Nobody tells you that the amniotic fluid will replenish and will come again so best be prepared.
There are so many endless lists out there of things you should buy but over the past few years, I have managed to whittle the list down to essentials.
Nappies - The hospitals will not leave your baby with a bare bot but always wise to have some in your bag. Someone can always get more.
Dad's hospital bag
We should always consider dads bag for labour too as he can best support you when he is fed and watered.
I'm not sure what people think when they see me bent over, hood up in the rain hefting a double buggy, with a kid standing on the buggy board up and down the hill I live on? A bit of disbelief, pity, 'check the state of her', awe or 'thank God that's not me' ? Probably a bit of them all when I tell them all three kids are mine. I'm not the nanny or the help or the auntie, they're all mine. I had three kids under 18 months for a fortnight, three under 2 for a while and until July, I have three kids under the age of 3. So I go out, alot, to keep me and the kids sane!
I've learnt so much since I've had kids, don't we all?! Yes I've learnt about myself but I'm a different myself than I was 3 years ago. I'll never be the same as I was three years ago, not sure if I'm a better person but I'm different. I certainly know alot more about having babies and which playgroups in my area have the best biscuits than I did 3 years ago!
We've just finished painting our hall (I should mention we've had 4 house moves in 3 years too). I've spent the last couple of hours looking through old photographs to try and choose a few to get printed for our Adams family-esque staircase gallery and a few things struck me. I had a lump in my throat and a smile on my face looking back at all those photos of my little people, my world, the reason I cry with sadness, frustration and joy on a regular basis and realised they really are growing fast!
If you are having a hard time with a baby or toddler just know that it will get easier, it really will. It's so, so hard when you're stuck in the sleep deprived, mentally challenging phase of full on toddlerhood to try and stop for a moment and enjoy these babies, as they still are really. If you can still say their age in months, they are babies!
Things will change for me in August, the twins will be 3 and it feels like a looming deadline that I'm desperate to get to but really don't want to at the same time. The twins will go to local nursery 3 mornings a week as well as the 2 full days they currently do at private nursery so I can work (or mess about looking at photos and blogging as I'm doing today).
The logistical challenges that suddenly stopped me taking the twins to gymnastics, music, dancing, gymboree, book bug, monkey music, toddler sense, sing and sign, zoo tots, messy play, football or swimming (I've tried them all) will fade as I can leave the twins with their teacher or they will be over 3 and too big to go anyway! It got too complicated trying to offload the baby to granny's to rush one or both twins to a half hour class which I'd spend running 2km around a hall after Jack to bring the ball back, catch him running out the double doors of the library with a pile of dvd's in his hands or console Anna to stop crying because someone pushed her off the trampoline, got her head stuck in between the steps on a slide or because a duck bit her (actually happened) while leaving the other child unattended and with a stranger in charge. I could go on with the things that have happened at various classes, needless to say I just stick with playgroups now as I get biscuits and other people keep an eye on the kids while I neck a cup of tea!
I will have three spare mornings a week come August, I can take the baby (by then she'll be 18 months) to stuff she so far hasn't done like swimming and gymnastics. I can go to the supermarket without a fight over who gets to sit in the trolley, I can even go to my closest supermarket Lidl (they don't have twin seat trolley's). I might manage a playdate with local mums as the thought of someone coming to my house has filled me with so much dread! Not so much that it's a builiding site as much as it's like a zoo!
The twins can communicate with me alot better now, they tell me when they have a sore tummy, are about to be sick, need a poo, they want spaghetti etc. Although we're not 100% there I recently found the biggest poo I've ever seen beside the ballapalooza with not a trace on either twins naked bottom half, still not sure who done that one but have my suspicions it was the boy! I've also realised that 'I'm not very well' is a line from a Peppa Pig episode so that doesn't wash with me as easily.
So those are my ramblings and reflections, life is good, stressful, unpredictable whilst totally repetitive but it's good and nowhere else I'd rather be! Best batten down the hatches before rounding up the kids from nursery and granny's house!
My first sign of pregnancy is always my boobs. A sudden nipple awareness to the giant knockers I seem to grow in the first few weeks. Now don't get me wrong, I love boobs. (just as well really). Bump is expanding too (though I fear some of it may still be M&S blueberry muffins which I took a real notion for a few weeks back!!)
It is at this point you dress for comfort!! My god what did women do before lycra. The wheel isn't the best invention -a lycra most definitely is. The frustrating thing is that most shops don't do in store maternity section and if they do its very small. Also a serious lack of places covering 'small, plump and pregnant'!!
New Look, H&M, Mothercare all have stuff in store, Albeit limited. Next, Asda, Asos, M&S on line. And if looking for higher quality items Tiffany Rose and Isabella Oliver (if its good enough for Holly Willabooby, its good enough for me)
I have been living in yoga pants, long vests and two god send pairs of Next maternity jeans. I have other mat jeans that refused to stay up and when falling throughout the day also strangely took my pants with them.... My bum has never been for public display!!!
When you have a job where people look at you and expect you to dress up its not easy. Whilst singing I feel I have to announce I am pregnant. Last week I didn't and I could see two women starting at me only for one to drunkenly ask me 'sorry hen, but are you pregnant or just fat??
At times its a depressing affair, seeing all the gorgeous clothes and knowing you don't fit anything. Then I look at my almost 3 year old and think wow, I grew you!!! I also see women in classes practically glowing with beautiful bumps of all shapes and sizes. Women who wished they were bigger, smaller, higher, lower and I just think you know we are creating miracles in this room. All growing little people, actual humans and I think how lucky we are. So yes, my knockers might be huge, my bump ever expanding but I am growing a whole person that I can't wait to meet.
till the next time.
So, pregnancy dreams are apparently ' reflecting your thoughts and feelings about being pregnant.' Quite how being attacked by two sheep or sleeping with Joey from friends comes into this I am unsure. Surely I am not having a lamb.
I have often dreamt of being chased but since becoming pregnant its all out James Bond action when I close my eyes. I have been a secret spy on a mission, hiding hostages and information from the enemy. In this recurring dream I am Lara Croft and can scale walls and knock out men twice my height with a round house kick Angelina herself would envy.
The sheep dream I have no explanation for!!! Two sheep on hind legs attacked me walking home from a pub...... protecting their young perhaps??
Having an affair with Joey from Friends..... I have to say I have had worse dreams and actively tried to get back to sleep just to continue it. Am I losing my identity as I merge into motherhood again?
Erotic dreams during pregnancy simply offer reassurance that you are still sexy, alluring and loveable. Joey from friends was all of these things when I dreamt of him!! I told him doing the dream I shouldn’t have been with him but he told me to relax and enjoy.
I always remember the dream of one of my ladies where on going for her scan they told her she was indeed having a Greggs Sausage Roll instead of a baby!! Another lady dreamt of a talking horse she met in a field who was giving her words of wisdom on caring for her baby.
During my first pregnancy I dreamt I was a mermaid. It was wonderful, so liberating and free, I was several stone lighter and the brunette version of Darryl Hannah. Water is apparently common. From puddles to swelling oceans, you may find that water is a recurring theme in your pregnancy dreams.
Your emotions may range from anxiety to excitement about the changes in your body and your life.
My latest dream was baking a cake. Now this is not something I have a talent for in real life!! I am baking/cooking a baby? What colour was the icing? Damn I can’t remember!!!!
Supposedly we don’t dream more, we just remember more as our sleep is more disturbed when pregnant. Yawning as I type…… Back to Joey please…
Till the next time
There are so many things to do locally for fun that you may not realise are actually there. The Daisy Mums have been keeping a list and I thought I would share with you all. A few things that could be fun to do in the Easter holidays!! Click on the destination to take you to the page.
Whitelee Wind Farm
Science Centre in glasgow
M&Ds @Strathclyde Country Park
Museum of Rural life - East Kilbride
Beecraigs country park
New Lanark Sensory Room
Almond Valley heritage Park - Livingston
Blair drummond Safari Park - Stirling
Briarland farm - Stirling - beside Blair Drummond
WellsField farm Park - Denny
Riverside museum - Glasgow - Free
Kelvingrove Museum - Glasgow - free
Auchingarrich wildlife park - perthshire
Trip to the beach - Troon, Largs, Ayr, North berwick, St Andrews, prestwick
Cambuslang public park
Chatelherault country park
Scottish Owl centre @Polkemmet Country park
Polkemmet Country Park
Palacerigg country park
Summerlee Museum of industrial life
World of Wings bird of prey centre near Cumbernauld
Rouken glen Park
East links family park
Strathaven balloon festival end of august
Strathaven park, boating pond, miniature railway, play areas
Calderglen country park & Zoo
Jupiter artlands, Wilkieston Edinburgh
Largs (maybe by train, chips for lunch at the seafront)
lunch out in town with the Gallery of Modern art thrown in
Linn Park & local nature reserve
Kelburn Country park
pizza express to make own pizza
vikingar for kids at Largs
The Helix /The Kelpies in Falkirk has an adventure play park.
Sledging at xscape
Gourock outdoor pool
The Milk barn in falkirk has play park and a cafe
Dynamic earth - Edinburgh
East Yonderton farm for strawberry picking
Five Sisters Zoo
National Museum of Scotland - Edinburgh
Edinburgh Butterfly & insect world
Day trip to Millport Via Ferry at Largs
Heads of Ayr
Kings Park Stirling
Trampolining @Airspace EK
Broadwood Gymnastics parent and toddler sessions
Glasgow city council parks & gardens
St Andrews Aquarium
Deepsea World Queensferry
Mugdock Country Park
Glasgow Botanic gardens
Highland wildlife park
Strathclyde Country park
The Time Capsule for Ice, water and softplay
The Peak Stirling, Swim, climb, ice skating
Walk along the canal beside The BoatHouse
Bothwell Scarecrow Festival in September
My name is Claire Adey and I am working with Professor Chris Williams, an expert in cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) at the University of Glasgow. This research is part of my training as a clinical psychologist (Doctorate in Clinical Psychology). The project and has been granted ethical approval from the University of Glasgow and complies with the data protection act (all data will be stored securely and no participant will be identifiable in any of the write-up).
The research study offers a support course for new mums using the cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) approach. The course is designed specifically to help mums who have young children (18 months or younger), and are experiencing low mood, stress or worry. It aims to teach mums skills to improve their coping and mood, and help build closeness to their babies and is available online so they can use it when they wish. The modules are short audio files and videos which give mums information and suggest techniques they could practice. Support is also provided from a member of the lifskills4mums team by email.
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